Comments on: My Relationship With Married Men

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By: Zelophehad’s Daughters | My Nacle Notebook 2008: Interesting Comments

Zelophehad’s Daughters | My Nacle Notebook 2008: Interesting Comments — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 23:49:39 +0000

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By: Zenaida

Zenaida — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 08:14:49 +0000

cyano, welcome! I have not made it up Whitney yet, and would love to do it.

By: cyano

cyano — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 22:23:27 +0000

This is an old post, but I just found this site.
I run into this problem often. I love to climb mountains. There are very few women mountaineers and even fewer alpine rockclimbers. It is almost impossible for me to find other women to climb with so I climb with male partners. Some are married, but we are very careful to set appropriate boundaries. I often hear criticism for that from other members of the church.

Zenaida, if you haven’t made it up Whitney yet, it’s a mountain that I would like to head up or if you’re interested in other peaks, let me know.

By: Dora

Dora — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 06:07:51 +0000

Spending a lot of time in museums just now, I can say that there is something to be learned from viewing great art. The first is, “Look, but don’t touch.” I tend to think that this rule also applies to many of the people I meet in life. Same with, “Learn to appreciate, and don’t feel like you have to own.”

By: Caroline

Caroline — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 04:14:58 +0000

And I agree with xjane. It’s the others who are blowing something innocent out of proportion.

By: Caroline

Caroline — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 04:09:06 +0000

Sephora, good question. While I have no problem with the idea of married men and women hanging out as friends, I’d personally be cautious about forming intense, emotional relationships with people of the opposite sex. I know I would not like my husband to do that, so I would try to avoid that situation too.

That said, I do think it’s natural that once in a while a married person may develop a bit of a crush on someone else. That’s not ideal, of course, but I think it does happen and that it doesn’t necessarily lead to questionable behavior.

By: sephora

sephora — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 02:16:12 +0000

Hello, like to ask you guys a question: what do you think of “emotional infidelity”?, I know people, whose affairs started just as an innocent friendship but then it turns into an affair.

By: xJane

xJane — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 00:00:12 +0000

Zenaida:

I feel like a child being chastized for not knowing better.

I think you should feel exactly the opposite! You’re the one who’s acting mature. All of this sounds so much like “girls/boys have cooties”…

By: Lily

Lily — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 19:16:07 +0000

Zenaida:
Was the story from your fireside portrayed as “true” or was it just a hypothetical example?

I’m really bothered by the idea that if you do everything “right” you get all of the goodies and if you make a mistake then you end up an “old hag.” There area all kinds of problems with this line of thinking. One could look to Job for a good example of someone who endured a lot of hardship even though he didn’t sin. Even Joseph Smith had a really sucky life even though he did whatever the Lord asked him to do.