Comments on: Morning musings on a changing marriage http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/ Am I Not a Woman and a Sister? Sat, 31 Jul 2010 22:13:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Stephen M (Ethesis) http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11837 Stephen M (Ethesis) Mon, 15 Jun 2009 02:54:25 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11837 <b>As all of these thoughts raced through my mind and surfaced in rage as I reached out and slapped John across his right cheek, as hard as I could.</b> Seems like you are still torn. Wish I had something I could say. As all of these thoughts raced through my mind and surfaced in rage as I reached out and slapped John across his right cheek, as hard as I could.

Seems like you are still torn. Wish I had something I could say.

]]> By: Jana http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11836 Jana Sun, 14 Jun 2009 22:40:57 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11836 Janna: From anecdotal evidence, it seems that choosing not to attend typically results in excommunication. But that is certainly something that would be decided on a case-by-case basis, I am sure. But John wants to go, and I'm incredibly supportive of his choice. Anon: I am sure my life would be different if I had chosen a different marriage partner. But I find 'what if' questions to be highly unproductive, so I don't really go there very often. But I can assure you that I'm not just blindly following John. That's not my style at all. Janna:
From anecdotal evidence, it seems that choosing not to attend typically results in excommunication. But that is certainly something that would be decided on a case-by-case basis, I am sure. But John wants to go, and I’m incredibly supportive of his choice.
Anon:
I am sure my life would be different if I had chosen a different marriage partner. But I find ‘what if’ questions to be highly unproductive, so I don’t really go there very often. But I can assure you that I’m not just blindly following John. That’s not my style at all.

]]> By: amelia http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11835 amelia Sun, 14 Jun 2009 20:56:15 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11835 this is beautiful, jana. and i think that the very best marriages must involve this kind of growing. anon: i think you must not have read much of jana's personal blog, or read it very closely, because she makes it very clear that she has been on her own spiritual journey which has taken her away from mormonism. speaking as someone who reads her writing and who knows her IRL, i can assure you that jana does not simply acquiesce to ideas john promotes. i'm sure that her own journey has been shaped and influenced by john's, but i am just as sure that it is her own and that her journey has similarly shaped and influenced john's. they are one of the couples i most admire and hope, someday, i'll be able to emulate in my own marriage. this is beautiful, jana. and i think that the very best marriages must involve this kind of growing.

anon:

i think you must not have read much of jana’s personal blog, or read it very closely, because she makes it very clear that she has been on her own spiritual journey which has taken her away from mormonism. speaking as someone who reads her writing and who knows her IRL, i can assure you that jana does not simply acquiesce to ideas john promotes. i’m sure that her own journey has been shaped and influenced by john’s, but i am just as sure that it is her own and that her journey has similarly shaped and influenced john’s. they are one of the couples i most admire and hope, someday, i’ll be able to emulate in my own marriage.

]]> By: Kelly Ann http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11834 Kelly Ann Sun, 14 Jun 2009 04:17:00 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11834 Also, I have to say, what a beautiful wedding photo! Also, I have to say, what a beautiful wedding photo!

]]> By: Kelly Ann http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11833 Kelly Ann Sun, 14 Jun 2009 04:15:46 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11833 Jana, How lucky you are to have each other! Thank you for your openness and sharing this with us here at the Exponent. My thoughts are with you. Jana, How lucky you are to have each other! Thank you for your openness and sharing this with us here at the Exponent. My thoughts are with you.

]]> By: Anon on this one http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11832 Anon on this one Sun, 14 Jun 2009 03:36:08 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11832 From reading your blog, your husband's blog and this blog, I have to ask myself if you would ever have left the church if John hadn't promoted it. If the answer is no, then I feel sorry for constant acquiescing you are doing - even if it is sub conscience. From reading your blog, your husband’s blog and this blog, I have to ask myself if you would ever have left the church if John hadn’t promoted it. If the answer is no, then I feel sorry for constant acquiescing you are doing – even if it is sub conscience.

]]> By: mb http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11831 mb Sat, 13 Jun 2009 23:25:16 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11831 oops. Thanks for the clarification, Janna. oops. Thanks for the clarification, Janna.

]]> By: Wade http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11830 Wade Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:39:59 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11830 Jana My reaction to your reaction is that John is fortunate to have you beside him on his journey away from the Church. I am making the journey as well but it is very lonely without anyone. At times you just want to give up. Jana

My reaction to your reaction is that John is fortunate to have you beside him on his journey away from the Church. I am making the journey as well but it is very lonely without anyone. At times you just want to give up.

]]> By: Janna http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11829 Janna Sat, 13 Jun 2009 14:54:10 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11829 Hi MB - Just to clarify, "Jana" is the one with John. I'm the "Janna" who is a just a reader :) Hi MB – Just to clarify, “Jana” is the one with John. I’m the “Janna” who is a just a reader :)

]]> By: suzann http://www.the-exponent.com/2009/06/12/morning-musings-on-a-changing-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-11828 suzann Sat, 13 Jun 2009 13:40:49 +0000 http://the-exponent.com/?p=2844#comment-11828 Thank you for sharing this intimate love journey. The Mormon Church can excommunicate you but it cannot separate you from your personal spiritual journey. I send positive love blessing to you and John. Thank you for sharing this intimate love journey.
The Mormon Church can excommunicate you but it cannot separate you from your personal spiritual journey. I send positive love blessing to you and John.

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