by Kelly Ann
Several weeks ago I had the following somewhat awkward maybe minute conversation at a game night with some single Mormon friends:
Guy [to three girls present]: Do you think chest hair is attractive on men or not?
[After dead silence] – Me [knowing this will stir more tension]: I like it.
[Followed by more dead silence and weird looks in my direction by others]
Guy: Well what if it isn’t uniform?
Me: I say let it be. (Noting I have never paid that much attention to hair on guys at the beach.)
Others comment about benefits of hair removal in swimming. Conversation goes five different directions. Awkwardness is palpable. Somehow it comes back to me saying a guy shouldn’t feel the need to shave if they are comfortable with it.
Girl [looking back and forth between guy and me]: Girls aren’t really the ones who should be commenting on hair removal …
[Exchange ends, either someone walked in the room or the game progressed]
Me [thinking to myself but censored]: “You probably don’t want to see my legs…”
I am actually not a true hippie. I tame my eyebrows (mostly the stragglers), pluck a few random chin whiskers I get, and shave my armpits. But I go through phases in which I don’t shave my legs. Since I live in 60 degree year round weather for the most part, it really isn’t an issue. I wear dark tights so no one even notices when I wear a skirt. And truth be told, I really don’t have that much hair on my legs except for down the middle of the front of one of them.
But as it has gotten warmer, and I have gone the longest I have ever gone without shaving my legs (nine months), I have become more conscious of it. I have confidently rode my bike with my right leg rolled up but then quickly pulled by pant leg down before getting to work. There have been weekends when I have been unphased, if not somewhat proud of my hippiness, and worn capris – albeit mostly at home. But as I thought about wearing a swimsuit this past weekend, I caved and I shaved my legs.
I have to admit that although I say that one should be comfortable whether or not they shave, that I am only to a certain extent.
Knowing that the question of body hair is oft debated between feminists, I am curious what this group thinks about body hair and what they personally shave or don’t shave?
Noting I really truly do like hairy guys – particularly guys with well trimmed beards. And hate that as a society we have a double standard of what is acceptable for women.Read More