This Relief Society lesson which can be found here can be an empowering discussion about how to strengthen our leadership abilities as women. I would start this lesson by asking the sisters to think about times in their lives when they have been leaders and to contemplate what it was that made them a leader. Was their leadership effective or powerful? What qualities helped them to be powerful?
You might share a personal experience to help them to begin the process of self-inquiry. Last spring I had an experience with my son in which I needed to step up as a leader. My kids and I were visiting my parents at their home while I was doing some training to become a licensed yoga instructor. One morning my son was playing the wii and accidently threw the remote control into my parent’s big screen tv, shattering the screen. When I came upstairs I could feel the charged emotions. My parents were in shock and didn’t know what to do. My son looked like his heart was shattered along with the tv screen. My first thought was that I wanted someone else to take charge of this one, but the mantle of leadership fell to me as the parent. I had spent all weekend in training, learning how to be a powerful leader. I had learned how to keep my feelings neutral in order to neutralize the charged emotions of others. I sat down with my son and talked to him about how this was a big deal and it was going to cost a lot of money to fix. But I told him that I loved him more than I loved the money or the tv. I told him that mistakes happen, that there is nothing we can do about it now other than to move forward, and make efforts to be sure it doesn’t happen in the future. I also shared with him some big expensive mistakes I had made in my life too, like breaking grandma’s car. I could see the relief flood over him.
My ability to be a leader at a moment when I wanted to scream at my son or hide in my room, came from love, as well as spiritual strength that I had built up through twenty-five hours of yoga training over the course of the weekend. My ability to be a leader at that moment empowered me to change a bad situation into positive one. I found that I had power to influence everyone involved. At this point I would write the words “Love,” and “Spiritual Strength” on the board and ask for more suggestions of qualities that make up powerful leadership. Some qualities suggested by this lesson are: humility, spiritual strength, knowledge, loyalty, unity, love, and delegation.Read More