Guest Post: This is Why Feminism and Expanded Doctrine of Heavenly Mother is Necessary in the LDS Church
My brother is a die hard Aggie fan. He absolutely loves sports and one of his favorite things to do is to discuss (read: argue) sports especially with fans of other teams. He especially seems to find enjoyment out of needling BYU fans. This is why I was not surprised when I was looking through my twitter feed the other night to see that he had been discussing (read: trolling) some BYU fans on twitter. But then I read the tweet in the image up above. My brother had needled one of the BYU fans into using derogatory/demeaning language about women as a come back.
This stopped me in my tracks.
This was not okay.
Name calling is never in good taste and never shows an intelligent mind. But the use of that particular term not only degrades females God-given, God-designed, bodies that were made in the image of God. No, it also very strongly implied that the absolute worst thing that this man could think of would be to call another man, a girl. Because that is literally, in this man’s eyes at least, the worst thing that a human being can be.
This is why we need feminism.
We don’t need to just say “women are incredible” and “women are amazing” and “I love women so much”. This is an instance of coming “near with their lips but being far from their heart.” We need the treatment of women to “raise the bar” not just in lip service but in action. We need to make it clear that the physical, emotional, social and spiritual (especially spiritual) lives of women are just as important as mens.
How do we do this?
We need to expand our doctrine of Heavenly Mother. I have been told the false doctrine that “we don’t talk about Heavenly Mother because she can’t handle being degraded and disrespected like Heavenly Father can.” Heavenly Mother is in fact being degraded when we as a society continue to use language and treat women in ways that disrespect and degrade them. Heavenly Mother is being disrespected when we continue to underestimate and undervalue the contributions that women have to offer. Her life is being devalued when we act like she isn’t there and when we act like the spiritual lives of women don’t matter as much as men’s spiritual lives.
We have come so far.
But we still have so far to go.
When we come to truly love and respect and honor Heavenly Mother, not just in words but in actions as well, that is when we as a society, both as men and women, will learn to love and respect and honor the women in our lives.
This is why Mormons need feminism.
Kelsi is a twenty-something who has lived her life up and down Interstate 15 and currently finds herself living smack dab in the middle of Utah county. Lately you can find her working with the coolest pre-schoolers in the land, most of whom are unable to speak and some of whom are unable to walk or even hold their head up. Kelsi has a secret monthly ritual of watching New Girl’s episode “Menzies” and The IT Crowds episode “Aunt Irma Visits” on Netflix because nothing makes cramps more manageable than period jokes.