Guest Post: What I Didn’t Know About Abusive Relationships
I know someone in an abusive relationship. Chances are, you do, too.
The day I discovered the extent of physical violence and abusive language and manipulation in my friend’s relationship, the thing that surprised me as much as the abuse itself was how much of the relationship was NOT abuse.
I had thought of domestic violence as something obvious and constant—something you would recognize immediately and walk away from.
But it wasn’t.
An abusive relationship looked like my friend, tip-toeing around a spouse who only seemed controlling and out-of-control part of the time. It looked like meals and holidays and jobs and grocery shopping that (even if they were laced with fear and vigilance) looked average on the surface, mundane even.
This abusive relationship looked like a shared history that wasn’t completely bad. In fact, my friend said that enough okay moments outweighed the terrifying ones and decided to stay.
I can’t change my friend’s choice to remain silent. But I had to do something.
So I created Ten Voices, a Kickstarter project that ends today.
10 writers and artists created 10 pieces of art meant to inspire voice. We’re organizing a creative workshop for survivors of domestic violence. Our goal is to support and inspire the voices of those who have survived domestic violence and decided to leave.
You probably know someone in an abusive relationship.
And chances are, that person has remained silent.
We would love you to raise your voice with us. Support the workshop and own the art here, only through the end of today, 2 December 2013: http://kck.st/1fptu0Z