Guest Post:Is Charity All About Attitude?
After working with her for several months, I now know that Tracy can be very grumpy. She complains a lot about her job. She sometimes yells at people in our department (but she’s never yelled at me). She curses. She knows we leave at 4 pm every day, but still acts surprised when I ask if she’s ready to leave. She fiddles with her purse and coat for what seems like a long time. She walks slowly, and I am eager to get home to my son. I don’t think she’s ever delayed me for more than 10 minutes, but at the end of the day, 10 minutes feels like an hour.
Giving Tracy a ride home takes very little effort, and there’s no reason why I shouldn’t do it. I have no plans to stop. But part of me wishes I had never made that first offer to give her a ride. The truth is, I just don’t like her very much. There, I said it. So how can I get my heart on board with my actions? I’m not giving her a ride home to win myself points in heaven, because I don’t believe there’s a scoreboard up there with my name on it. But I keep thinking of Paul’s words:
“And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.” (1 Corinthians, 13:3)
I think the church gives us lots of opportunities to do right (visiting teaching, cleaning the building, working at a cannery), and sometimes my heart is into these things, and sometimes it’s not. Sometimes I do them anyway, sometimes I don’t. Is there value in doing the right thing when you really don’t want to? I think so. But obviously it’s better to have a good attitude about it, because Paul said it’s not charity unless we’re feelin’ it.
Are there things you do on a regular basis that you can’t get yourself to like? What has worked for you to have a better attitude about such things?