How Big is Your Brave?
Being a Mormon Feminist, or nearly any kind of human, sometimes requires bravery. At the Sophia Gathering last June, a few friends showed me this lyric video, based on the song Brave by Sara Bareilles. It still brings tears to my eyes to think of girls and young women being encouraged to speak their truth to a society that usually doesn’t want to hear. So I’m curious about how we as Mormon women see bravery. We have another Wear Pants to Church day, the recent Ordain Women event, and now the reality of a combined women’s meeting, how big is our brave? I had the opportunity to find out how big my brave is recently when my stake president called me into his office. It was a week or so before general conference, and since he didn’t invite my husband to join me, I assumed it was not calling related. Still, I got his cell number from the Executive Secretary and texted him to find out what the topic of the meeting was. It was about the Ordain Women movement. So I decided to be brave and attend the meeting, even though I don’t know my stake president very well. In the meantime, I sought support from my Mormon feminist friends, who gave me encouragement and great ideas. Because of my schedule, I showed up that night to the meeting in my zumba clothes, tank top and bright colored pants. Although I was a little uncomfortable, I still tried my best to keep my head when he asked me questions about Ordain Women and the desire for women to hold the priesthood. Thankfully, my stake president was really searching to understand me, and women like me in the stake who don’t come visit him. He listened as I explained my thoughts and feelings on patriarchy, church callings, women’s role in the church, in the temple, and eternity. In the end it was a good meeting. I really felt that I had been brave, although I wished I had called to set the appointment years before, instead of being summoned in when my cause was in the news. This last Sunday I found out that this Stake President is being released because he has been called to be a mission president. While I’m disappointed, I’m looking forward to the opportunity to meet the new Stake President early on and practice my new-found bravery. How do you feel about being brave? What situations are easy or difficult for you to speak your truth?