Mother’s Day: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
I’ve heard from a number of bloggernacle friends today about their Mother’s Day at church. Some have been nice, some have been very, very bad. I thought I’d do a rundown here of what I consider good ideas and experiences on Mother’s Day, verses the bad.
- people giving talks in SM that feature women as real (not idealized) people who lived diverse lives
- RS Mothers Day programs that highlighted women in individuals’ lives that have positively influenced them.
- musical numbers from women-authored hymns, with background explanations of who the women were and why they wrote.
- men taking over primary and teaching the kids the Deborah and Anna verses of follow the prophet.
- sitting in cushy chairs, eating food, listening to nice musical numbers in RS.
- SM speaker saying, “Women don’t hold the priesthood. That’s right. Because women hold the babies.”
- two youth talks which both feature the Stripling Warrior story.
- The Young Men’s choir getting up and singing male- focused hymns about priesthood, missions, and other manly topics.
- childless women getting flowers foisted on them when they don’t want them (Note: the way to solve this dilemma is to have the flowers, cookies, candy, etc. on a tables in the foyers so that women who want them can come and take them.)
The Really Ugly
- SM speaker focusing his talk around “The Evils of Feminism” describing feminists as coarse, trying to be like men, etc., dismissing the concerns of a woman who wrote to church leaders struggling with women’s status and opportunities in the church, and saying that Satan has led feminists astray.
- SM speaker referring to that salon.com article about feminist atheist women reading Mormon Mommy blogs, which proves that these women have realized that the route to happiness is being a Mormon stay at home mom.
- the young woman in SM whose mom just died a year ago speaking about Mothers Day and struggling terribly with her pain. (Note to bishopric: don’t ask people’s whose mom’s have been recently died to speak on Mothers Day.)
- the SM speaker who said that women should have a baby within 11 months of marriage. Having kids early means that they can act more like older sisters to their kids as opposed to mothers (apparently this is a good thing?)
What was your experience with The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly at church today?