Questioning Prop. 8
Posted by Zenaida
I have more time for questions than answers lately. I cannot complain of leaders who don’t understand. I’ve been very fortunate to have leaders who have been compassionate and willing to work with me. Granted, I haven’t gone in for a temple recommend interview lately. I once had my mother describe someone who was questioning as “too smart for his own good,” and I agreed. How could I possibly have been so narrow? Beyond my own self-deprecation is the curiosity if there is some balance we should strike between knowledge and faith. Knowledge in and of itself is not damaging, but the choices we make based on that knowledge can be. Where do we draw the lines? Well, people draw them in different places, and I can hardly begrudge them that opportunity, but it becomes so problematic when those choices affect other people. (Please forgive me if I’m hashing out Philosophy 101, here, but I’ve never taken such a class.) Where is that line of stopping someone from sticking their own hand in a fire (or someone else’s hand for that matter) and allowing them their agency.
My recent approach to the Prop. 8 propaganda has been one of avoidance. I want to stay in church. It’s very difficult when I’m being told that every civilization that has tolerated homosexuality has fallen, and that’s why I should jump on board with the coalition to save traditional marriage. So, homosexual marriages are going to bring about the fall of the United States of America, and the guy in the ward who owns 5 shotguns is going to be justified in his defense plans of the church building when society at large begins to crumble around us? I can’t help but think of friends in same-sex relationships that are solid and beautiful, and I can’t help but think that sexual deviance is so prevalent in the gay community because there is no support structure to encourage healthy, committed relationships, like marriage. How could it possibly be called anything else if we grant the same legal status to these couples?
In talking about this subject in church, I’ve heard only political statements and generalizations supporting “our” position. There has been no effort to gain understanding of what it must be like to have same-sex tendencies, as we describe it. I recently had a friend comment on a commercial produced by the coalition against the proposition, and he was touched…I think. But, I highly doubt it would be enough to change his vote.
This issue is hardly the only factor in my questioning, but at the moment it is the most present. So, will tolerance for homosexuality bring down our civilization? What about the other justifications for supporting the proposition that are being given? The only one that seems to matter is that the Prophet asked us to.