Sharing Time: a Father’s roles
After much prayer and thought, this is the sharing time I’ll be presenting this Sunday. If you have ways to approach this lesson that you think would be helpful, please share. If you’re not diggin’ my feminist take on this sharing time, I recommend sugardoodle.net for a more traditional lesson plan (I did get a little help there, too—see the game below).
A New Theme
Today is the first day of a new month, which means we have a new theme:
Family members have important responsibilities.
“Organize yourselves; prepare every needful thing; and establish a house, even a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of glory, a house of order, a house of God” (D&C 88:119).
Each member of the family needs to make sure that these things happen in their homes and in order to do that we need to make sure we’re doing certain things.
What does this quote say we need to be doing? (if you’re really on top of this, you could have pictures to put up when as the kids say things like: pray, go to Church, fast on Fast Sunday, etc.)
How can we do those things?
Today, we’re going to talk about a father’s responsibilities. Sometimes, our dads aren’t able to live with us, so we have people who can be like fathers to us.
This is a picture of my cousins. Soon after this picture was taken, their dad died in a plane crash. But, they had lots of people be dads to them: friends in the ward, their grandpas, their uncles.
When my parents got divorced, my dad wasn’t able to live near the family for a while or their dads may not be members of the Church. My brothers had their home teachers and seminary teachers give them blessings when they needed it and my dad wasn’t available.
Dallin H. Oaks: “My mother loved that scripture and lived its principle. The greatest affliction of her life was the death of her husband, our father, after only 11 years of marriage. This changed her life and imposed great hardships as she proceeded to earn a living and raise her three little children alone. Nevertheless, I often heard her say that the Lord consecrated that affliction for her gain because her husband’s death compelled her to develop her talents and serve and become something that she could never have become without that seeming tragedy. Our mother was a spiritual giant, strong and fully worthy of the loving tribute her three children inscribed on her headstone: “Her Faith Strengthened All.”
The blessings of adversity extend to others. I know it was a blessing to be raised by a widowed mother whose children had to learn how to work, early and hard. I know that relative poverty and hard work are not greater adversities than affluence and abundant free time. I also know that strength is forged in adversity and that faith is developed in a setting where we cannot see ahead.”
And sometimes, our dads live with us, but they just can’t be around all the time.
Do you have people who have been like dads to you?
How does that make you feel?
What do fathers do?
What does your dad do in your house to make it a happy one?
If you’d like to go into gender specifics, by all means…
Some traits I’d like to see covered include: loving, protecting, helping, giving advice.
Boys, what can you do to grow up to be good dads?
1. Lifetime member raised by a single mom
2. Convert raised by non-member parents
3. Dad leaving for Iraq
Game scroll down the page to the “Game” section
I’ll be adding the following:
Joseph: This man raised his wife’s son like he was his own father (Matt 1:16-25)
Widow: This woman had to be mother and father to her son (1 Kings 17:15)
I am the primary chorister in my ward, and I am using the Salt Lake Temple as a metaphor for families. We’ve talked about the cracks inthe foundation, the dirt thrown on the temple to hide it from the army, and how long it took to build. Then I related that to our families – sometimes we feel like our family is cracked; sometimes we feel covered in dirt and that no one can even see us; sometimes we have this great, ideal family in mind and it seems like it will never happen. But God knows the end from the beginning, and He wants us to succeed and is guiding us to that great ideal of a Godly family.
Close with your testimony of families and the importance of the role of fathers in our lives.
*special thanks to Mwesigwa for letting me use this picture. He has so many great photos and was very gracious about letting me use this one.