Single and Endowed
I was endowed at the age of 24. I did not serve a mission, and I am still single. I’ve recently begun to wonder if I could do it again, would I? Would I choose to wait instead? My father was against it, and I expected my bishop to be also, but he was very supportive. Some of the reasons that I personally was given for not receiving the endowment were that it was far worse if the law of chastity was broken after going to the temple, there’s no reason to go if you’re not getting married or there’s no hope of getting married, and because the temple is so geared toward married people, it would be difficult for me as a single person, and I wasn’t going to serve a mission.
A friend once asked me why I chose to receive my endowment, and I responded with, “It was the right time,” but it was so much more complicated than that. I gave her the easy answer, when I didn’t fully understand it myself. I felt stunted in my spiritual growth, and I wanted to take that right of passage. Now that I am endowed, I do not regret the knowledge I gained, but I can’t help but occasionally mourn the path I began to walk. I felt like I was ready and needed to know in order to continue my spiritual growth. I never expected to find elements that would be upsetting. So, there are times when I think it would have been better for me wait, and times when I am glad I do not have to make the choice to marry in the temple blindly.
I ran on to this ZD post from last year
Everything from the opinion that it’s not necessary until sealing, to setting an age limit, to the verbiage from the handbook was given: ”
Most single members will be interviewed for a recommend for their own endowment when they are called as missionaries or when they are to be married in a temple. Worthy single members who have not received their endowment in connection with a mission or marriage may become eligible for a recommend interview when the bishop and the stake president determine that they are sufficiently mature to understand and keep the sacred covenants made in a temple. Such eligibility should be determined individually for each person rather than using routine criteria such as reaching a certain age or leaving home for college or employment.
This particular comment resonated with me:
I felt that the only thing I could control in regards to my own personal progression was to go to the temple. It was the next step in the gospel and I didn’t want to what for some other need (marriage or mission) to make me go.
I could have written that myself.
Another interesting side note is the complication of marrying someone outside of the church and having the husband’s permission be required before entering. Would a wife’s permission also be required?
Perhaps it’s all been said already, but singles, I would love to hear how you made your decision to enter the temple, and any thoughts on the encouragement/discouragement of single sisters to receive their endowment.