So You’ve Got Identity Incongruency. Now What?
“queer mormon PTSD”
“queer mormon women PTSD”
Oh wait, I forgot to add the part with ADHD.
“queer mormon women ADHD PTSD”
It’s kind of funny that I forgot the ADHD part, huh? Well, I guess it would be funny if I wasn’t already writing this post 5 hours later than I should have, because I forgot it was my turn to post on The Exponent…
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What do we do these days? We Google. When I Googled the terms above earlier this morning, I found multiple articles claiming that queer people are more likely to experience PTSD, even that it “comes with the territory“. Then I went to Google Scholar and looked for some concrete findings I could base my post on. There are not as many connections in the research as I would hope. I could not find anything looking at the intersection of being queer, Mormon, and being diagnosed with ADHD. ADHD stands for “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder”, and PTSD stands for “Post-traumatic Stress Disorder”, both of which are from the The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders or DSM-5 (5th ed.; DSM–5; American Psychiatric Association, 2013).
I found several infographics that show the vulnerabilities queer youth face here. I found behavioral health national statistics here. They speak for themselves, and give ample future reference for posts I will write here.
Then, I found this. The term “identity incongruity” is perfect.
Two of the most unstable domains involved in identity formation, the religious and sexual domains, come into conflict when vulnerable populations of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community experience oppression from the indoctrination of religious beliefs that persecute their sexual orientation. This conflict, aptly termed identity incongruity in this article’s discourse, results in a schism that adversely affects these vulnerable populations. This paper investigates the roles of religion, spirituality and available institutional solutions to propose customized, culturally adapted, contextually based and collaborative community-level interventions that would facilitate the reconciliation of the conflicting identity domains.
I thought of growing up Mormon. My identity was incongruent. Square peg, round hole.
So I have some questions for you, dear readers. I hope some of you will answer, especially if you identify in any way as a gender and/or sexual minority, queer, or LGBTQIA+. Think of identity incongruity, how it creates conflict in those who feel it, and answer me these questions:
What does that do to young people in the church?
What did that do you you as a child growing up in the church?
How can the church make it better?
How can we make it better as people that are now grown?
Feel free to add more questions in the comments below.