What I Wish I'd Known Before Sex, or Birth Control 101
One of my close friends has a cousin who recently discovered an unexpected pregnancy. She’s single, in her mid-twenties and not ready for a baby. The kicker for this story is that she got pregnant on her FIRST TIME having sex. And, she did think about birth control, but she used Plan B (morning after pill) as Plan A, not knowing it was only 80% effective.
And then there’s my little 18 year old sister who is planning on getting married in the next few months but doesn’t want a baby for a few years. When I was a 20 year old newlywed, I didn’t understand ovulation and the range of dates I could get pregnant, which is how I ended up with a baby at 22.
So, whether married or single, women should have all the information they need to prevent a pregnancy or STD before they start doing the hanky-panky.
From her Young Woman’s advisor, one of my friends remembers, “It’s easier to repent (of sexual transgression) if you don’t have a baby.” and tells her teenage sons with a smile, “Two forms of birth control are NEVER enough!”
When I was newlywed, I was on the pill, but it messed with my moods. So, I stopped taking it and we started using condoms, but not with regularity. That’s how baby one was conceived. Baby two was planned, and baby three was conceived the day after I stopped taking the mini-pill.
Right now I have an IUD, and I love it. With three small children, I’m not sure when or if I’ll have any more, and this Mirena is good for five years. I’ve learned that the best candidates are those who have already had a baby.
What did you wish you knew before you started having sex?
If you aren’t sexually active yet, what are you concerned about? What questions do you have?
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As you can see, I have birth control on the brain and want to encourage you to talk to single women that you know, daughters, friends, and sisters about sex, pregnancy and birth control.
(Photo: That’s me, 9 months pregnant and 9 months later. The images are superimposed, and my 5 year old is the photographer.)