Who Does The Driving?
It’s Halloween time – full of all things fun, scary, and silly – so I’m writing something light. This is something that doesn’t really matter; but something I’ve been curious about just the same. Who does the driving – and why?
I am inspired with this question because of a scene I recently witnessed at the SLC airport. I was on the curb waiting for my pick-up ride when a van pulled up. The driver was a young (maybe 25), pretty woman – and I assume mother to the three young children in the back. She got out of the van to greet her husband who appeared to be returning from a business trip. After a hug and a kiss and few words, she handed him the keys and climbed into the passenger seat of the van. He climbed into the driver’s side and drove away.
I admit – I was surprised. Why did he do the driving? She was obviously capable of driving because she had driven to the van to the airport. I can only assume that the van was deemed “her car” since she probably drove the children around during the day.
I can think of reasons for one partner would drive rather than the other. Perhaps he/she is a better driver. Perhaps he/she knows the directions to the destination. Perhaps he/she has requested to drive. And since men and women are equally able to drive – I would think the reasons would fall equally to men or women. But this is not what I see. I see men driving – most of the time – in family situations. When I see married couples in my family or at church, I predominately see the man driving the family and he is predominately driving “the van”, which I assume he does not drive to work.
I’m not in a marriage relationship, so I’m not sure why this happens. This lop-sided driving does not happen for me. When I date, I always drive my car and he always drives his car and we switch off taking cars to dates and destinations.
I know it doesn’t really matter, but just for fun today (and because I’m curious), I thought I’d ask the question of all of you – who does the driving?