Affirming mantras about our bodies, body size, and food during a global pandemic. #CopingWithCOVID19
These mantras are associated with a blog post on fat phobia and our changing bodies during the COVID-19 pandemic. They are applicable other times, too.
My body is one of the only things I will have with me throughout my entire life.
My body can be an important form of comfort during this pandemic (and other times). It can also protect me.
The way I feel in my body, present it to others, and have it responded to is important.
*My body is attractive and deserving of love and intimate partnership in whatever form feels good to me.
My body has value and meaning as it is, or what it is transitioning into, whichever is most helpful to me.
My body is deserving of nourishment and food that comforts me and tastes good.
It is natural and normal for bodies to change and evolve over time.
Food does not have moral value. The type and amount of food I eat has absolutely no correlation to my value as a person or the type of care my body should receive.
I will do my best to treat my body as I would the body of a little child: with gentleness, compassion, and softness.
It is okay if I have complex feelings about my body. This makes sense given what I might have been taught, my experiences in my body, and how others have responded to my body.
If I feed myself during this pandemic, that is enough. There is no one right way to eat during this time (or ever).
Whatever size clothes I need are okay and important. My clothes help me function in my body and are a form of comfort and protection.
No one has a right to make demeaning comments about my body.
No body is more or less valuable than another, even if others say this is so.
My body is deserving of protection and care.
There are people who affirm and love me and are interested in caring for my body, despite the actions or words of others.
Heavenly Mother wants me to feel safe and comfortable in my body. She affirms my body as it is, or what it is transitioning into, whichever is most helpful to me.
*There is disagreement among the body positivity and fat activism communities whether or not there is a role for attractiveness and beauty. We are multi-faceted human beings who clearly do not solely function to be attractive for ourselves or others. However, I believe there is a place for feeling attractive or beautiful for people that have been historically stigmatized, such as fat folks. I was not told I was attractive or beautiful in my family of origin, and it is part of my own therapeutic work to see my body as attractive on my own terms.