Guest Post: Helpmate Vs. Help Meet
by Frank Pellet
(Frank Pellett is an LDS father of 4 (soon to be 5) software developer living in Utah. He enjoys reading, family, and light discussions about many topics, especially those that involve sharing experiences and gleanings about making your way through life.)
One of the Biblical teachings that always gets to me is the misquoting of a verse in Genesis, where God creates Eve.
Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Often, when I hear this quoted, it’s put as a single word – helpmeet. The definition taken from this is something like a maidservant. This is used to show that God made women as subservient to men. However, this is not the meaning of the pairing of words.
Meet, on its own, means equal. In this, God is saying that He will make Adam someone equal to him, that can be a help to him. This does not place one above the other any more than my helping you do something makes me your servant.
As with Adam and Eve, marriage between a man and a woman is a companionate relationship. They must work together to get the greatest accomplished. The later comparison of marriage to being “equally yoked” is very apt, as one is not pushing or pulling the other and neither is leading, but both are working together to go where the master (God) desires them to go.
And, if you are looking for someone to share your life with, just remember you are looking for an help – meet for you, not an helpmeet to be owned by you.