Guest Post: What Would You Have Said?
by Emily U
My baby girl was recently blessed at home. It was a very small gathering, with just my family, our bishop, and our home teacher present. Our extended families listened in via Skype. After the blessing, my almost 4 year old son started crying. I asked what was wrong and he said he wanted to stand in the circle, too. He’d felt left out of what he sensed was an important event. Our bishop kindly told him that was a righteous desire, and some day he’d be able to.
Fast forward a few months, and my son still wants to talk about why he couldn’t participate in his sister’s blessing. He asked me this morning why children can’t stand in blessing circles, and I replied that you have to be an adult. Then I thought I’d better tell him the whole story, and I said, “And you have to have the priesthood.” To which he replied, “Why can’t mommies be in the circle?”
I wasn’t prepared for this question, and was surprised it would occur to such a young mind. My husband just smiled and shrugged, as if to say “I’m not touching this one.” So I told my son the truth: I do not know why mommies can’t stand in the circle. It’s just a rule our church has. Maybe some day mommies will be able to.
I felt like it was a totally unsatisfying answer, but he accepted it. I have a nagging feeling like I failed him in the answer I gave, but in thinking more about it, I don’t know what else I should have said. So I’d like to know, what would this community of bright, independent-minded people tell their children when they ask questions like this?