#hearLDSwomen: I Am the Head of My Household Just as Much as My Husband
When I was married, the software program/ward clerks deleted my “household” (with contact info and my photo) and added me as a member of my husband’s household, with him as head of household. So there was no contact info or photo of me. They also changed my name without my permission, even though I had explicitly requested ahead of time that they not change my name.
– Emily Belanger
When I was growing up, I had a mentally disabled father who wasn’t active in the church at all. My mother was clearly the head of the household in every way – my father was more of a fifth child than a spouse. But he was listed as head of household in the directory. It drove me mad.
My husband is not even Christian, and he is listed as head of household in the ward directory. (I kept my name.) My home teacher is the ward clerk and he says he can’t change it.
– Sylvia Cabus
When I remarried, they put me under my husband with him listed as “head of household.” When I asked to have it changed, they said something about the software not being set up that way. So now people can’t easily find me because I didn’t take my husband’s name.
– Cherie Pedersen
I’m sick of my house being called “Stephen Christiansen’s house.”
It’s my house, too.
– Amelia Christiansen
Pro Tip: Respect women’s wishes and call them by the name they prefer. Don’t assume they’re going to change their last name after getting married. Don’t assume the husband is the head of household or that the home only belongs to him. Since marriage is an equal partnership, the woman owns the home and is head of household just as much as the man is.
“If any man have ears to hear, let him hear.” (Mark 4:23)