#hearLDSwomen: My Tithing Was Recorded Under My Husband’s Name
The first time I went to tithing settlement after getting married, I discovered that nearly all the tithing I paid was placed under my husband’s name. I was so upset because my husband was in school full-time and I was the breadwinner at the time. I didn’t want someone else to receive the credit for the tithing I had paid. The bishop told me that the tithing is placed under the priesthood holder’s name. And when I hear things like that, it makes me dislike the word “priesthood” because it sounds like men get special treatment just because they have the priesthood. I told the financial clerk to put it under my name, but he never did. Perhaps the website didn’t allow him to. I’m glad that nowadays I can pay tithing online and it goes under my name. Also, at tithing settlement the bishop said he only needed to ask the husband if he was a full-tithe payer. This made me feel awful, like it doesn’t matter if I pay tithing or not. Am I not accountable for my actions? Paying tithing is important to me, and the bishop made me feel like it was only important for my husband. When I told a family member about this, she saw it as a positive thing, that the bishop saw me as an angel and didn’t need to ask if I paid tithing. But I didn’t agree with her view since the bishop had made me feel so awful.
When we were first married, I was working and husband was in school. They put all the tithing I paid under my husband’s name. I pitched the biggest fit and got them to put it back under my name. I was SO angry about this.
I had all my tithing put under my husband’s name after marriage. I asked to have it moved back to under my own name and was told it didn’t matter.
– Ashley Groesbeck
Pro Tip: Respect people’s requests when it comes to their records. If you wouldn’t put a man’s tithing contributions under his wife’s name, don’t put a women’s tithing contributions under her husband’s.
“If any man have ears to hear, let him hear.” (Mark 4:23)