#hearLDSwomen: My Voice Is Dismissed; Men’s Voices Are Heard
I started bringing my husband to all one on one interviews such as callings because if a calling was not right for me and I asked for time to think/pray about it, the bishop would tell me I’m not exercising faith or not supporting my leaders.
If my husband came along and I said I’d like to receive a confirmation on my own, my husband would chime in with a comment about my other responsibilities being a priority for our family, and the bishop would smile, agree with him, and either withdraw the call or let us pray about it for a week before declining.
I can’t tell you the number of times I have quoted scripture or a conference talk or something Joseph Smith said and been dismissed, only to have a man come along and share the same scripture or quote and be praised for his knowledge and understanding of the gospel.
Conversely, I have also been in the situation where my knowledge of the scriptures was praised, but in such an exaggerated way that the surprise at my knowledge was nearly as irritating as a dismissal.
– Leah Marie Silverman
A bishop a few years back interviewed my husband and me to welcome us into the ward. He asked a question that my husband indicated for me to answer, and the bishop ignored that I said anything and repeated the question to my husband.
Pro Tip: Give women’s words as much weight as men’s. Don’t look to men to speak for their wives.
“If any man have ears to hear, let him hear.” (Mark 4:23)