#hearLDSwomen: New Bishopric Revoked Permission
Last year about this time, I was working with a group of primary children on a special musical number for Thanksgiving. I had jumped through the hoops to get a “non-canon” song approved, and it was lovely. Two weeks before Thanksgiving, a new bishopric was called. One of the counselors had a daughter who was singing with us, so he had heard the song. They called me three days later to tell me that they had all individually received revelation that this song was not to be sung in church, that it was “not to be heard at this time.” And I should prepare a new song with the kids in ten days’ time and ask the bishopric next year about this song because the timing might be right. Yeah . . . I’m not doing any of that. I fought them on it and they would not budge, so two months of prep got dumped and those kids’ hard work was wasted. Give me a freaking break. I haven’t worked on any music since and won’t until they are released. It’s ridiculous.
I’ve literally never been shaking with rage prior to this incident. It was so uncalled for and clearly so much flexing of new bishopric muscles. Unfortunately, I was also too new in the ward to really pitch a fit like I usually would have. I had to settle for just refusing to prep a new song (they got one of their wives to quickly teach the kids something anyway) and stepping away from involvement with music at all. Mind you, this whole thing was a completely volunteer effort because they refused to give me a calling when we moved in as soon as they found out I work full time.
It wasn’t even anything subversive or edgy or anything. They just DECIDED and then tried to tell me how it was really such a powerful experience as a new bishopric that they ALL felt prompted that it “wasn’t to be heard at this time.” I asked them why I or the ward music specialist would have been prompted to choose the song then, and all they did was email me back the chunk of the Handbook that says that they’re the bosses of Sacrament Meeting.
Pro Tip: Give women the autonomy to fulfill their callings. Don’t overrule women’s prayerful decisions for their stewardships unless it’s absolutely necessary.
“If any man have ears to hear, let him hear.” (Mark 4:23)